Win her back the right way

I’m sure Fred’s had his own share of problems with Wilma before

The dilemma of trying to get an ex girlfriend back after a break up is ages old- and probably dates back to the era of the dinosaurs and caveman!

The truth of the matter is that the basis of a relationship really- is a complex one.

And if you’ve recently experienced a break up, you can be excused for feeling a just a little shaken up emotionally.

What likely happens next is a sudden “revelation” that your ex girlfriend is the one person that you really want to be with.

That’s great except for one thing- you’ve broken up with your girlfriend and chances are she may already have a “new” boyfriend.

Well, don’t throw in the towel just yet.

I’m here to tell you that there is always hope.

Your next question will probably be:

Who are you and why should I listen to you?

Good question.

Many years ago, I was faced with a similar situation.

You see, my girlfriend had dumped me for another guy.

Worse, he was someone I knew.

For many months I was left feeling frustrated, angry and lost- on the verge of despair, I started speaking to people that had relationship problems as I did- and eventually developed relationships with those very same people that I was directly speaking to.

Even Spidey’s had his share of trouble with the ladies

I soon found myself taking notes and documenting every single little finding and educating myself on the “ways” of woman. I would read books on the subject and whenever possible, develop a relationship with the folks who were experts on the subject matter.

As fate would have it, I chanced on a meeting with the author and creator of the Ex Recovery System Ashley Kay.

When I finally felt that I had enough information I soon decided that I would share those findings with folks that needed it the most.

So what do I do about my girlfriend?

First things first.

Your first instinct (and every other guy as a matter of fact) is to dive head first and try talking your ex girlfriend into getting back with you.

Don’t do it!

This is the biggest mistake any guy can do in his “quest” to get his ex back.

Resist the urge to call your ex girlfriend and “beg” or persuade her to get back with you.


  • Let’s face it. Breaking up is an extremely traumatic experience. Not just for you but for your ex girlfriend as well.
  • As it is, the best thing the both of you can do for now- is to give each other the space and time TO HEAL. And to fully come to terms with the event that has taken place.
  • Your emotions are erratic and all over the place. It’s the same with your ex girlfriend. The both of you will not be able to think “clearly”! Without clarity and a clear, “working” mind, do you think you’ll do a good job trying to talk her into getting back with you? With her emotions and yours all over the place, do you really think that she’s ready to make the “most” important decision in her life?

Think again. “Fools rush in”. If you act out rashly, and your ex girlfriend isn’t prepared, you will most assuredly cause irreparable damage and destroy any possible chances of a reconciliation.

The only thing that you will accomplish is to appear desperate to your ex girlfriend.

Let’s face it, that’s not going to score any points.


  • Understanding how a woman thinks is key to your success.
  • It is in the very nature of the female species to reject a man that is desperate and needy.
  • I repeat”: They DESPISE a NEEDY and DESPERATE man.

So stop calling her every minute!

Give your heart a “time out”

If you want to know how to get her back for good, then please take this advice.

The best thing to get the results that you want (which is getting your ex girlfriend back) is to lay off for a while.

Accept the break up, forget her and move on.

I don’t want to forget about her you (***censored***)  idiot! I’m here because I want to get my ex girlfriend back!

Is this some kind of a joke?

I hear you and I assure you it’s not a joke.

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, what would you rather do?

Follow a method that has worked for thousands or take a chance and do it your way and possibly ruin your chances forever with your ex?

Glad you see it my way!

So listen, the first and hardest step of your plan to get her back is to actually forget her.

Yes, you heard right.

You say: That’s nuts! I can’t do that. I still love her! I can’t get her out of my mind!

Well, do you want to know how to get her back for good or not?

Ignore your natural instincts to constantly “harass” and call her repeatedly or pay her uninvited visits so that you can get her to sit her butt down and “repair” the relationship.

If you still want to do this, fine go ahead. But each time you call her, remember you’re destroying yet another “chance” to win your ex girlfriend back.

Remember our earlier chat about “being desperate”.

By backing off, you’re actually showing her a sophisticated level of maturity (if you will) that you understand her needs.

That you understand that she needs “time” to think about the whole “mess”. (she’s still high strung and emotional, what do you expect?)

Give your heart and hers a time out so that the both of you can first accept the “break up” , calm down, heal and have a clarity of the mind.

Yes I can be Tony Stark! (Where did I put that damn tin suit anyway?

It’s YOU!

Interestingly, getting back with your ex has absolutely nothing to do with her.

It has everything to do with you!

Listen, YOU decide what you want in your life and how you want to live that life.

YOU decide how much money you want to make and how many beautiful women you want to have in your life.

YOU decide if you are in control of your life and the master of your own destiny!

Now take a minute to think about what I’ve just said.

Does any of that make sense?

Of course it does!

Once you understand that you are the master of your destiny and that YOU have full and absolute complete control of your life- there’s really nothing that you can’t achieve: whether it’s attracting that gorgeous next door neighbor or plain getting your ex back, if that’s what you really want.

Do you get it?

If you want to win back your ex, you will need to have mastery over your emotions and more importantly, your conscious thought. If you think that you’ll never amount to anything in life, chances are that will be true.

If you think you’re never going to get your girlfriend back, chances are you never will!

If you think that you’re headed for big things in life and nothing’s going to stop you, and you take action- you WILL get there.

If you think you CAN get your girlfriend back, you will. Do you need control over your emotions and have complete control over your life to do accomplish this goal?

Of course you do!

You’ll need to have patience and the discipline to achieve this goal. (which is to forget about your girlfriend for now..)

Don’t kid yourself- You’ll need a clear and precise mind, along with proper education in order to achieve this.

So what now genius?

Well, the next best thing that you can do for yourself is to move on in your life!

Yes, you read that right.

  • Keep yourself busy. Take up a new activity or hobby! It can be sewing classes for all I care.
  • Go out and socialize! Start meeting new friends. Go online and find a great online dating site. Get back into the dating game!
  • After letting things cool down, (your time out should be in the period of about 2-3 weeks) Make contact with your ex girlfriend. Start with brief text messages that let her know you’re doing okay. Also ask how she’s doing and leave it at that.
  • Continue your education. Continue meeting people and developing friendships with women. (this helps you to take your mind off your ex- if you’re not careful, you may just end up meeting someone you like better!! :) ) You’ll also naturally feel less desperate over your ex and that’s an important part of your strategy to win her back.
  • Drop her casual text messages or call her briefly. Your conversation should always be impersonal and brief. The objective of the contact should always be to let her know you’re okay, and for you to check if she’s okay too!
  •  If you do this correctly, you will find that she will gravitate towards you. She will notice your new found confidence and her attraction levels for you will gradually increase in time. You will notice that she will want to increasingly spend more of her time with you than ever.

Continue building this “new” relationship with her until you feel that she is ready to commit and get back with you “officially.”

Remember, please be patient.

The goal here is for her to notice that you have become an extremely confident, attractive and a highly desirable “man”- someone that is attractive not only to her but to other beautiful girls as well.

When you have become a man that is naturally attractive to other women, she will naturally be attracted to you again.

If you want a more detailed map to fast track your success, why not check out Ashley’s Ex Recovery System?

Is there an absolute guarantee that if you follow the plan outlined here that you will get her back?

No, but you greatly increase your odds of doing so. (because you are approaching the subject matter with proven methods that have worked for many)

Even though we have not met, I believe in you. I believe in the potential that you have to achieve great things in your life.

The BIG question is: Do you believe that yourself?

Do you know how to read the signs?

How do you know if your ex girlfriend hasn’t gotten over you yet?

Does your ex girlfriend still care for you?

If you could read the signs and know for sure- would that really help you to get your ex girlfriend back?

Even if she seemingly has a new boyfriend?


Understanding telling signs that your ex girlfriend is still not over you will not only be a major confidence booster for you but- you’ll be able to take the next steps knowing that your chances to get your ex back are obviously good. (even if she’s ignoring you- but this is covered in the video below)

Click here to get someone to help you get her back without worrying if you’re doing it right.

Some of the telling signs to look out for in your ex girlfriend  (so that you’ll know your chances are good) are the below:

  1. Your ex girlfriend is showing emotions whether they’re positive or negative emotions
  2. Your ex girlfriend is still staying in touch with you one way or another
  3. Your ex girlfriend is cold one moment and “warm” the other.

Pay close to attention to this video because we guarantee that you’ll be able to learn something valuable.

Even if she has a new boyfriend if she shows you the signs that she’s still not over you- then your chances to get her back will be extremely good.

Find out how to get her back quickly by clicking here.

Do you see any of the telling signs that your ex girlfriend may have showed you mentioned in the video?

If you do, congratulations.

The next thing to do now is to learn how to get her back for good by applying the correct methods.

The correct methods?

They’re ways to approach your ex girlfriend or wife without causing her to react in a negative fashion and worse- drive her further away.

Even if you see the “telling” signs that your ex wants you back, you can absolutely ruin your chances of getting back with her if you don’t do it right.

Especially if your ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend!

If you don’t want to worry about “messing” up your chances of getting your ex back, why don’t you get someone to help you?

Click here to see how you can get expert help so that you won’t lose her.

If you your ex girlfriend, it’s forever.

I always say this in my posts.

“Forever is a long, long time.”

You can absolutely do this and get her back in your arms even if your ex girlfriend did not show any of the signs in the video.

Just have faith in yourself and educate yourself about the correct methods and have a strategy to get your ex girlfriend back.

Good luck and God bless!

Steps that you can take video

This video will share some insights into female psychology (because that’s what it’s all about) and show you some immediate first steps so that you’ll know how to get her back for good.

To see how you can get step by step methods to get your ex girlfriend back without worrying if you’re doing it right click here.

Listen, I always say this: If you want to understand how a female thinks, then listen to another female.

Men and women do not think alike! Guys forget this all the time!

They respond and react to circumstances differently than a guy will.

Don’t believe me?

Ever had a time when you wanted to hang out with your buddies to watch the playoffs?

Remember how your ex girlfriend would go nuts just because of that?

The reason for this? She feels that your friends are more important than her!

On the other hand, she has no problems hanging out with her girlfriends at the mall and as a guy- you probably wouldn’t too.

As a matter of fact, that might just put a smile on your face! Why? Let’s face it guys. We don’t pretty much enjoy taking our girlfriends out for shopping that much now do we?

In the video above, Ashley talks about gaining control of the situation- and keeping your emotions in check.

She talks about giving some space to your ex so that your ex girlfriend will not feel like you’re driving her into a corner.

If you do that and push her for a commitment, you’ll eventually end up losing her.

And very quickly especially if she’s just started seeing someone.

You’ll just help the other guy and get her falling back to the “other guy” for support!

It’s crucial that you follow the steps explained in the video so that you can firstly- get her attracted to you again an secondly- get her back with you again.

See part two of the video below as we explain and share some tactics on what to do next so that you’ll know how to get her back for good.

Part two of the video series

This second video reveals specific tactics on how you can immediately get her attraction and get her to notice you without ‘scaring” her off.

To learn more about female psychology and how you can use that to get your ex back click here.

Just try putting into action the methods and tactics described here.

Remember, keep your emotions intact and in check- whatever the case.

I always say this- I know what it’s like to lose a person that you care for.

I’ve always looked back and wish I’d taken the time to educate myself so that things could have been different today!

I had too much pride to learn from anyone I suppose.

But most importantly- I didn’t take any type of action or make any attempt to reconcile.

I always thought that she’d eventually come to her senses and we’d get back together.

It never happened.

If you’re patient and apply the correct strategy, you can make it happen.

Also, if you want someone to take you by the hand so that you’ll know what to do each step of the way, why don’t you click the link somewhere above the page.

Let someone help you get your ex girlfriend back without worrying if you’re doing it correctly.

It could mean all the difference between success and failure!

If you lose her, you lose her forever.

Forever is a heck of a long time!

Good luck! You can make it happen!

You can get back with your ex girlfriend if you want to.

I’m rooting for you!

Free report: Ten mistakes most guys make

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Click the above download button to save this free report.

Watch the video above by Ahsley Kay about the top ten mistakes that a guy will usually make when they’ve just lost and broke up with their girlfriend.

I’m pretty sure you’ll learn something valuable- after all if you can’t learn female psychology from another female, you can’t learn it from anywhere else.

Make sure you go ahead and download the report and find out what the top ten mistakes are.

Don’t make these ten mistakes

These are mistakes that no one can really afford when they’re trying to win back their ex girlfriend.

In this free report, you’ll be asked ten tough questions about yourself.

Ten questions that will help you in your efforts to reconcile with your ex girlfriend.

After you answer these questions- you will be clear on what it is that you actually want to accomplish. You’ll know how to get her back for good and keep her.

The questions will help you to also see the most common mistakes people will make when they’ve just lost their girlfriends: so that you don’t make them too.

We promise this free report will open your eyes and reveal something about yourself and your relationship that even you have not thought about.

Read the report and put it to use.

Remember to put into action what you learn.

Don’t wait if you can- take the first step and put into action your plan to get back together with your ex girlfriend. (even if she has a new boyfriend! Have faith!))

Don’t make the same mistake like I did. I’ve been in your shoes before. I lost someone that I could never replace.

I’m not saying again that there’s no else in the world for you. Of course there will be- the question is: Do you want to be with someone else if you can help it?

All the knowledge in the world is useless if you don’t take the first step.

Also- don’t forget to plan your course of action. For example, before you go ahead and call your ex girlfriend- plan what it is that you will actually say to her.

Remember the objective:

Get a positive response from your ex girlfriend or ex wife for that matter.

Do not sound desperate!

Stay calm all the time and stay focused on your goals. By that we mean- do not get overly distressed if she rejects you or does not answer your calls.

Be patient!

If you need more information about how to get her back for good, we have some valuable information on this blog. Take some time and read some of the blog posts for more information.

The more you know, the more confident you will be in getting back your ex!

Till next time, stay well!

Good Luck!

Free Report to help you win her back

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Click the link above to download a free quick 3 minutes report about steps that you can quickly take to get your ex girlfriend to notice you so that you can get her back lightning fast.

You can quickly get your girlfriend back if you know how. But only if you take action now.

We’ve talked about this so I hope by now you’ll realize that the first step in getting your ex back is to actually take the first step!

Do not make the same mistake that I did. I’ve been in your shoes before and left it to “fate” to decide for me.

Do not repeat this mistake. You will lose your girlfriend for sure! (especially if she has a new boyfriend!)


We’ve included this free report so that you’ll learn some ways on how to get her back for good quickly.

This short report will reveal the first crucial steps that you can take to get your ex girlfriend back lightning fast.

Look out for the other free report (in the next post) that will reveal the top ten mistakes that almost everyone makes when they want to get their ex girlfriend back.

What you’ll learn from this free short report:

What to do during the Break up Emotional Cycle

This is the time when you’re understandably feeling hurt, angry, even feel a surge of panic and shock.

Ashley Kay shows you how you can control these emotions so that your emotions do not get in the way and ruin your chances of getting back with her.

You’ll need to get your emotions in order as part of an overall strategy to reconcile your relationship with your ex girlfriend.

Or wife for that matter.

Turning up your attraction mileage

This report also reveals how you can pique her interest and get her to notice you quickly.

The report reveals how you can turn the focus away from her and to yourself so that you can “attract” her.

Staying as friends

Avoid mistakes such as agreeing to be “friends”.

Don’t do this. Doing this will destroy any reconciliation chances. We show you why it’s the single biggest mistake people make.

You’ll understand why when you read this free report.

Top ten mistakes you cannot simply afford

Most guys make these mistakes when they’re trying to get their ex girlfriend back. Look out for the next post to get this free PDF report and find out what these mistakes are and how to avoid them.

When you finish reading this short report- Remember to plan a course of action.

But perhaps more importantly- You must take steps now to get the girl that you love back into your arms before it’s too late.

You might just wake up one day soon and find out that it’s just too late.

And short of inventing a time machine- nothing you can do will ever change that fact or get her back.

Take care!

Till next time, good luck.