Using the correct approach to get her back

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Forever. What the heck is that?

One advice. Don’t wait. If you’ve just for some reason had a falling out with your “ex girlfriend” DO NOT WAIT to do something. You must take some form of action. And you have to do it now. It’s extremely vital to do something quickly now before she’s gone forever.

Take a moment and let that sink in. Forever.

Take another moment to think about what forever really means.

Wouldn’t you say forever is a really long time? Really really long time?

But what if you could learn the correct approach and increase your chances and odds of getting back with your ex? What if there’s still hope if you knew exactly what you had to do next to make that happen?

Take it from someone who’s been there. The problem is that it takes a while before you realize how much you miss her and all those crazy things that you used to do together. By the time you realize it, you may just find out that it’s just too late to fix it.

Here’s the thing- You may have been with someone else before you were with your ex.

But you were probably okay with letting the one before your ex go. And you probably never looked back since. Why? Because you never had that “special” connection like you did with your ex. You never had that “chemistry” which you had with your ex.

Chemistry?

If you miss your ex and you’re wondering why you feel the way that you do- even after all this time (hopefully you haven’t taken too long a time if you want to get back with her ) then you certainly had “chemistry” with her. Even if you have not seen your ex for a while, it’s still not too late to do something positive. But we’ll talk more about this later. Let’s get back to chemistry.

Chemistry is not something that you will generally have with every person that you’ll meet or even have been with. Chemistry is when two people are able to connect and somehow feel comfortable doing anything together. When I say anything- I mean anything. Weird things, fun things, whatever. It’s when two people accept the other for what they are in every sense of the word. Sound crazy? Not if you’ve had that with you ex- and would know what I mean.

Listen, when you have chemistry with that someone, that’s when you’ve found a “soul mate”.

Forget about her

There are times when a relationship that has ended isn’t worth pursuing anymore. Forget about how to get her back for good now if :

1. You do not actually want her back for the right reasons. By that I mean, that you want her back for your own ego and that’s about it. Because she left you, it hurt your pride and worse, your ego because NO ONE LEAVES YOU. So make sure your ego is in the right place and you actually want her back because you genuinely love her. Okay?

2. She cheated on you and told you that she wants to end the relationship because you’re just not right for her. If she cheated on you, it’s not worth trying to get back together with her. Listen, why the heck would you want to be with someone that can turn on you in a second? Besides, she is clearly in “love” with someone else. She probably never loved you at all so why would you want her back?

3. You’ve cheated on her when you were with her, and deep down inside- you never actually loved her. If this is the case, do not waste her time. And yours.

So what now?

You don’t fit any of the above criteria and you want to get back with your ex. That’s fine- as mentioned above, it’s time to take action before it’s too late. You need to take these steps quickly:

Communication: You’ll need to start communicating with her quickly. Every second that goes by means that some other guy could already be making a move on her. For all you know, they could already be talking “marriage”. No? What if you’re wrong?

To avoid all of this from happening- you must act now. You’ll need to find the correct way to firstly, solicit a response from her. If you haven’t been on talking terms since your breakup, you do not want to start by sending her e mails or text messages that goes like this: I need you… or I miss you.. or just blank messages.

Doing this will kill any chances of a reconciliation. Why? Studies have shown that people do not respond well to an act is associated with negative emotions: and desperation counts as an act that is associated with a negative emotion.

How well have you responded to a sales person that was desperate to sell you something? Do you remember walking away quickly when the sales person became too “pushy” and “desperate” to sell you that product? What if that sales person had just taken his or her time and let you feel comfortable and “slowly” helped you out with your questions about the product, don’t you think that would have increased his chances of selling you the product?

Of course you do. The same principles apply here. If you sound desperate, you will turn her off and send her packing.

If you’re comfortable with sending text messages, you should send her a text that is “positive” with an “objective” to solicit a response from her: but you’ll need to know how to do it correctly:

learn how to do it the right way so that she’ll engage you positively with text messages

Look out for the next posting when we share and give you some ideas and suggestions.

If you want a step by step walk through on how to correctly and systemically get her back with you again, Click here.

We’ll also talk about a systemic approach in our next post.

Once more, if you’re not convinced for some reason that taking action immediately is crucial, then you might be in for a rude awakening.

You have to understand that women act and think very differently from a man. A lot of men don’t understand this concept and while this may surprise you, I assure you that this is no joke.

When you’re no longer there to fill that emotional need and “emptiness” in her life, you can bet she’ll find someone else to fill that “void” in her life. A man may take his time and choose and pick someone they “really” like before they actually want a relationship with that person:

A women will pick someone she feels can IMMEDIATELY fill that emotional vacuum in her life and give her that security that she’s lost. Even if that man may not have been initially “attractive” to her or even if in her mind- he could never ever measure up to you. His looks, his bank account balance and all of that does not matter to her.

If someone else is there to catch her when she falls and offer her that “emotional” support and a shoulder to lean on- he eventually gets her.

So please don’t let yourself down and take action now. But make sure you read more about the DOs and the DONT’s here first before you take any type of action.

Take the time to find out about the mistakes that can ruin your chances of getting back with your ex and my friend….. don’t make them.

That’s it for now.

Best of luck, have faith that things will work out great for ya and it will.

The wolf dude signing off,

Till next, Peace.